Questions tagged [shidduchim-dating]

matchmaking; finding a spouse

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Is it improper to invite a few single girls and a few single boys for a Shabbos meal to help fight the "shidduch crisis"

The shidduch system, according to many sources, isn't working and we're in a "shidduch crisis." See, e.g. this article. People complain, but nothing gets done. I don't see that the shadchan system is working for everyone with resumes and…
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What to look for when going on shidduchim?

Are there any sources in the Torah that list the qualities and traits one should look for when going on shidduchim? I am not looking for personal preferences, but actual Torah sources (Tanach, Talmud, Mishna, Midrash etc.).
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When is it ok to compliment on a date

I don't know all the rules. Both of us are from Orthodox backgrounds, "black hat" litvish. We went on 3 dates already and I was wondering if on the fourth I could give compliments. I know on earlier dates you're not supposed to but when does that…
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Does anyone offer shidduch resume writing classes?

Follow up to this related question. In my neighborhood, the handful of shadchanim / ot are busy organizing and managing the shidduchim, themselves. My kids and I could use some hands-on assistance in writing a shidduch resume as well as, perhaps,…
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To invite a girl for a drink for example is Sofek kidushin?

Is it allowed to buy and give some drink or food for the girl during the dating process?
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