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I heard that it was in his sefer Hadras Kodesh, on the pasuk in Tehillim אם ה׳ לא יבנה בית

I can't find the sefer. Does anyone have a copy or an online source where I can see this?

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    This might be interesting: |(not an answer) "Some people, especially yeshiva buchrim do not approach shadchanim, but rather wait to hear a suggestion. They feel that trying contradicts their bitachon. Some specifically quote the Gra who says that the efforts people make to find a zivug is in vain, because everything is from Hashem. However R’ Shlomo Zalman Auerbach corrects this misinterpretation of the Gra and states : “Even though Hashem makes shidduchim, one must still do hishtadlus, though less than one would do for one’s other needs.” -https://yismach.com/HilchosShidduchimBooklet.pdf – Shmuel Sep 20 '22 at 13:57
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    The link in that article leads to this sefer that brings the source https://hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=47487&st=&pgnum=12&hilite= – Chatzkel Sep 20 '22 at 13:58
  • Cf. B'reishis Rabba (68:4): "יֵשׁ שֶׁהוּא הוֹלֵךְ אֵצֶל זִוּוגוֹ וְיֵשׁ שֶׁזִּוּוּגוֹ בָּא אֶצְלוֹ, יִצְחָק בָּא זִוּוּגוֹ אֶצְלוֹ, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (בראשית כד, סג): וַיֵּצֵא יִצְחָק לָשׂוּחַ בַּשָּׂדֶה, יַעֲקֹב הָלַךְ אֵצֶל זִוּוּגוֹ, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר: וַיֵּצֵא יַעֲקֹב מִבְּאֵר שָׁבַע." Note, however, that even Yitzchak's case involved some measure of hishtadlus (aside from Eli'ezer's efforts); both Ya'akov and Yitzchak had to "go out" before encountering their match (ויצא יצחק, ויצא יעקב). – Fred Sep 22 '22 at 02:54

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יהל אור: פרשת פקודי היכל ו, דף ל"ג טור ב

H/T @Shmuel and @Chatzkel who cited the analysis in שמחה לאי''ש which brings down the source.

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  • I see the source in the gemara, but I don't see there where it says that hishtadlus is not necessary. Am I missing it? – DavidM Sep 20 '22 at 16:32
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    Most of the first half of column 2 concerns this topic... most explicitly line 13/14 of column 2 states: ששוא הוא עסק בני אדם בענין הזיווג שהכל הוא מאת השם - that the involvement of man in the realm of 'pairs' (זיווג) is in vain for everything comes from God. – Deuteronomy Sep 20 '22 at 22:43