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I am hindu. My girl friend is Bohra from Udaipur, India. We have a relation of 4 years. We asked her parents for our marriage. Following is their response "As per quoran- A bohra man can marry hindu girl but a hindu man can never marry a bohra girl". They are forcing the girl to marry a bohra boy. How can i marry her? Also if whatever they are saying is correct then this rule seems to be wrong.

Sunil Kumar Sahoo
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    No non Muslim man can not marry Muslim woman. If you will marry her she will not be considered Muslim. – xitas Sep 30 '14 at 02:57
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    @Xitas your second sentence is not true. Sins don't expel you from Islam - this is a deviant Mu`tazili belief. – Ansari Nov 06 '14 at 18:48
  • @ Down voters. please write the reason for down voting. Your votes tells about your thinking. – Sunil Kumar Sahoo Nov 07 '14 at 06:55
  • @Ansari I wrote "I don't consider them Muslim" but you are right.It not about my view its about Islam. – xitas Nov 07 '14 at 12:20
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    According to that question (and several of its duplicates), her parents are correct. What you can do is either 1) disregard Islamic law, 2) respect Islamic law by not marrying her, or 3) become a Muslim. – Mr. Bultitude Mar 18 '15 at 06:40
  • @Mr.Bultitude I am ready to accept point 1 and 2. But I dont want to be Muslim and terror for the world. So I sont want to accept point 3 – Sunil Kumar Sahoo Mar 18 '15 at 08:44
  • @SunilKumarSahoo What you do is your own business. Beyond the information you've just been given, this site's function as an academic Q&A has served its purpose for your question. I sympathize with your problem, but if you're having trouble deciding what to do, strangers on the internet are not your best recourse. You need to talk this out with a trusted friend or two. – Mr. Bultitude Mar 18 '15 at 08:47
  • @Mr.Bultitude I hope you got best answer about your suggestions. Sometimes strangers are best resource and thats why we take others help to get right opinion. – Sunil Kumar Sahoo Mar 18 '15 at 08:54
  • Considering the reaction of the family, it is partially contrary to the Quran: as a muslim man, you could marry their daughter, but their problem wasn't that you aren't muslim, but that you aren't a Bohra. They want a Bohra husband for their daughter, if you would be a muslim (but not a Bohra) you had been probably also rejected on this reason. But maybe being a good programmer, a change to the muslim faith would make you maybe enough good party for their family to accept you. – Gray Sheep Oct 03 '15 at 23:23

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As per Islam they are correct in not allowing you to marry her, although they are wrong in saying a (Muslim) 'Bohra' man may marry a Hindu girl. Perhaps in their cultural 'Bohra' customs this is acceptable, however Islam only permits its male adherents from marrying People of The Book (′Ahl al-Kitāb). People of The Book refers to Muslim, Jewish, and Christian women. On the other hand, Muslim women are only permitted to marry Muslim men.

The only way to make this marriage acceptable according to the religion of your girlfriend would be for you to sincerely convert to Islam.

Granted, this may not change the opinions of your girlfriend's family, nor bode well with their cultural norms. That will be up to you to work through. But from an Islamic perspective, if you become a Muslim, then her family would have to come up with a very good reason to prevent her from marrying you (e.g. dificiencies in your character).

I would also like to add that Islam forbids parents from forcing a marriage upon their children. So from the perspective of their religion (Islam), they should not be forcing her to marry a specific person.

I wish you both the best of luck, and hope this answers your quesion.

A.Concerned.Lurker
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You would have to take something called a Misaq, which is basically an oath. You would then be able to marry her. As a Bohra, many people that I know, have married outside of the religious sect. A family friend of mine married a Hindu man. He is now a very practicing Bohra... he did convert though (and take the oath).

Bohra Islam is quite different from mainstream Islam/Shiaism. It's more of a culture and a distinct community that also follows a variation of Islam. If you speak Gujurati (the language in which we communicate, it would be really beneficial to you). You would fit right in, and also understand our holiness. It's a straightforward religion/culture. If you're set on marrying her, then take the misaq (it's a ceremony with the Aamil).

Best of luck!

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  • I respect Islam. I ll think about Misaq, if section 47:4, 8:12 (which is root cause of terrorism) is removed from Quran. Till those sections exist. I cant accept as I dont want to be a terrorists. – Sunil Kumar Sahoo Mar 18 '15 at 08:42
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there is point of view that muslim person may marry any monotheist religion person:

... And do not marry (you women) the ‘mushrikeen’ until they believe ... The word ‘shirk’ is used consistently in the Quran to mean the act of setting partner/s with God in any of God's exclusive rights ...

but hindu are not monotheistic probably.

i also suggest to embrace islam.

i have found a strong counter-argument to the above prooflink text: http://quran.com/60/10 : ... And if you know them to be believers, then do not return them to the disbelievers ("alkuffar"); they are not lawful [wives] for them, nor are they lawful [husbands] for them. ... and as far as i know, christians and jews are accounted as disbelievers in quran.

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  • Hindus are monotheistic. and we worship all forms of same god – Sunil Kumar Sahoo Feb 03 '15 at 07:07
  • I was ready to accept islam although her family and community never accepted me and scold me for my religion. I never accept any wrong things. I dont like only take policy. I believe in Give and Take policy. So I will never embrace islam. – Sunil Kumar Sahoo Feb 03 '15 at 07:34