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Get Out Of Your Mind And Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Paperback – 2 Dec. 2005
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This book offers a five-step plan for coping with painful emotions such as anxiety and depression. It teaches you how to learn life-enhancing behavior strategies that work to further the goals you value most. You'll learn to engage with and overcome painful thoughts and feelings with step-by-step acceptance and mindfulness-based techniques. You'll find out how to let go of control, and develop compassion and flexibility.
The realization that painful feelings cannot be controlled will open you to the possibility of fully emotional living. Once present, engaged, and aware, you can begin to build new lives for yourself filled with significance and meaning. This book is not about overcoming pain or fighting emotions; it's about embracing life and feeling everything it has to offer. In this way, it offers a way out of suffering by choosing to life a life based on what matters most.
- ISBN-101572244259
- ISBN-13978-1572244252
- PublisherNew Harbinger
- Publication date2 Dec. 2005
- LanguageEnglish
- Dimensions20.96 x 1.91 x 27.31 cm
- Print length224 pages
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- Publisher : New Harbinger
- Publication date : 2 Dec. 2005
- Language : English
- Print length : 224 pages
- ISBN-10 : 1572244259
- ISBN-13 : 978-1572244252
- Item weight : 1.05 kg
- Dimensions : 20.96 x 1.91 x 27.31 cm
- Best Sellers Rank: 11,569 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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My goal is a psychology of human functioning that transforms how we live our lives. That passion comes from personal pain. As a young professional I spiraled down into panic disorder and at the very lowest point in 1981 (www.bit.ly/StevesFirstTED) I found a way forward by turning toward pain and suffering, which then allow me to turn toward meaning and purpose. I tell this story in my book, A Liberated Mind. I immediately saw movement not just in myself, but also in my clients. Over two or three years I roughed out ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy ... by the way ACT is called "act" not Aay, Cee, Tee), and did a few outcome studies. Then I put randomized controlled trials on hold, while I and my team developed a basic science approach to human language (Relational Frame Theory or RFT), clarified the philosophy of science issues needed to do science in this slippery area (functional contextualism), developed a new behavioral approach to scientific development, Contextual Behavioral Science, and work on the techniques, measures, and theoretical concepts that would support all of this, especially the applied model called "psychological flexibility." Most of this was done at the University of Nevada, Reno, where I moved as a psychology professor in 1986.
Finally, in 1999 the first academic book on ACT appeared. At the time there were only 2 published randomized control trials of ACT. This book followed by the first RFT book in 2001, and then work really began to take off. We began doing outcome studies in earnest at the turn of the century. There are now several thousand studies on this work, including nearly 900 randomized controlled trials (see bit.ly/ACTRCTs) and nearly 300 meta-analyses or systematic reviews (see bit.ly/ACTmetas). ACT and RFT is being developed by a worldwide association of over 9,300 professionals with over 30 chapters outside of North America in 20 different languages -- the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS: www.contextualpsychology.org). At ACBS you will find list serves for professionals and a list of ACT therapists (bit.ly/FindanACTtherapist).
I've written 47 books but mostly for academics. My first popular book was Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life (with Spencer Smith; New Harbinger Publications, 2005) but I have a cool recent one I worked on for 11 years called A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters (2019; Penguin/Avery). It is a think book / self-help book / personal story / science story. It shows why psychological flexibility matters. If you want to be on my newsletter list go www.stevenchayes.com and click on "yes, please send it to me." I will start by sending you a 7 part mini-course on ACT. If you want a short and beautiful illustrated Ebook on "ACT in a Nutshell" drawn by my daughter Esther (her depiction of the Dictator Within will stay with you, I guarantee!), go to stevenchayes.com/a-liberated-mind and I'll send it to you. If you are a therapist, my newest book is called Learning Process-Based Therapy, written with Stefan G. Hofmann and David Lorscheid. It shows how to use processes of change to understand your clients and to fit treatment to them in an individually tailored way.
I continue to teach at UNR, but not for much longer (I will be retired from the academy in June 2023). I am now President of a 45 year old charitable organization, the Institute for Better Health, which is using modern technology to foster individually tailored psychological help. I spend my days writing, researching, helping my students, answering emails, hugging my wife, and appreciating my children (ages 16, 30, 33, and 52). I spend a lot of time trying to support the ACT, RFT, and process-based work of others.
You can learn more about my work at my website: www.stevenchayes.com
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- Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 7 December 2010Format: PaperbackVerified Purchase"Get Out of Your Mind and into Your Life", one of several SELF-HELP books I have read this year, and the title of the book could not describe its contents any better.!
This book goes a step further than Good authors like "Louise Hays" self-help books and "Susan Jeffers" self-help Series, because you will be automatically become engrossed, even by the 1st 3-5 pages in this book, on the grounds you have an open mind, and you are not a negative person...
Only those who are motivated to move on, or desperate to get out off their current circumstances will be ready, and this book is both light reading and very down-to-earth Practical medication for the soul.
I'm not going to repeat what others who rate this book very highly have already said.
All I wish to say this book has been a tremendous help to me, and works better than anything a "Shrink or a GP" can give you in the form of a Pill... Please, AVOID Pills (only if you can), but not an necessity, I as a result of recovering from Severe Depression and PTSD, I can speak with some authority and conviction on the subject..
The Shrink or GP can only do so much "the rest is down to you", also buy some "relaxing music and meditation CDs" here on Amazon, for after every 60 min reading session, which I personally recommend. (don't over do it)... (don't take on to much at anyone time)... Im sure your Adult enough to know whats best for you anyway. - thanks for reading.
If you think my review was at all helpful, I would be grateful if you would kindly CLICK Yes,! - cheers, David.
- Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 12 May 2022Format: Kindle EditionVerified PurchaseACT uses some well known principles (mindfulness, acceptance, values) and puts it into an articulate, well thought out therapy.
I used to get tangled up in unpleasant thoughts, now I see them for what they are and act in a way I value.
- Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 9 January 2016Format: PaperbackVerified PurchaseThis book is well written and offers plenty of practical advice. It's definitely one of the best self help books I've encountered and the exercises are cleverly designed to help you get the most out of it. It does get a little complex/advanced in some areas however so may not be to everyone's liking.
- Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 18 February 2015Format: Kindle EditionVerified PurchaseThis complicated book is an excellent insight into ACT- I could not put this book down until I grasped the whole set of ideas about acceptance being about willingness to put up with mental turmoil while one used valued direction to draw the automatic mind processes into a new moderate state of coherence. I now think of ACT as being as useful as CBT and REBT for having fairly immediate effect on mental distress.
- Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 2 April 2014Format: PaperbackVerified PurchaseThis is a much more difficult book to read and goes into the history and beginning of act therapy, however it is an excellent read if a little hard going at times but stick with it and it will make The Happiness trap by Russ Harris seem even better. Russ Harris has kindly written his book to simplify this book. Revalutionary I say and I hope it helps people as it did me.
- Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 16 September 2024Format: PaperbackVerified PurchaseOk, i've only just started reading this book so I cant comment on its worth of content but my first gripe is the size of it. I read on the go, at work or while sitting in a cafe drinking a coffee. This book is 11in x 8.5in this may be due to later content that requires this amount of space to fill out forms or something but just keep this in mind for those purchasing.
Will update later once further in the book
- Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 11 June 2015Format: PaperbackVerified PurchaseBook arrived on time. A very rewarding read. Can honestly say it has changed my life. I can now throw away my hoards of 'positive thinking' books. This is the only one that works and the only one I will use.
- Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 31 December 2020Format: PaperbackVerified PurchaseAs with a lot of other people over the last year my daughter has mental issues to deal with this will help her enormously.
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NancyReviewed in France on 6 March 20215.0 out of 5 stars Un livre d'auto-thérapie à lire absolument
Format: PaperbackVerified PurchasePour l'auteur qui est un scientifique en psychologie la solution à nos souffrances c'est l'acceptation et il a fini par me convaincre à travers ce livre.
+ Le livre explique tous de point de vu scientifique.
+ Offre des exercices d'autoguérison et des programmes de "vie"(comment identifier ses valeurs entre autres).
+ Accompagner ce livre avec des méditations de "l'enfant intérieur" résout le problème depuis sa racine et permet de vivre plus en paix✌ (ma propre expérience)
Ps: c'est pas un livre qu'on termine dans une semaine.
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Venturini GianfrancoReviewed in Italy on 22 November 20205.0 out of 5 stars Può essere di grande aiuto
Format: Kindle EditionVerified PurchaseTesto scritto con un linguaggio chiaro e facilmente accessibile, e articolato in maniera lineare e definita. Introduce a un'interessante teoria psicologica e offre al lettore molti spunti per affrontare in modo nuovo i propri conflitti interiori. Lettura consigliata.
Jenna SchoeppeReviewed in the United States on 24 May 20255.0 out of 5 stars Don’t get it from Amazon
Format: PaperbackVerified PurchaseThe book is great. I’ve used it before as an individual and now I use it in my practice as a therapist.
However, I received it damaged twice, so I would not buy it from Amazon again (how does it get sent damaged twice?!)
The book is great. I’ve used it before as an individual and now I use it in my practice as a therapist.5.0 out of 5 stars
Jenna SchoeppeDon’t get it from Amazon
Reviewed in the United States on 24 May 2025
However, I received it damaged twice, so I would not buy it from Amazon again (how does it get sent damaged twice?!)
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AshokReviewed in India on 3 May 20165.0 out of 5 stars Education through scientific means
Format: Kindle EditionVerified PurchaseWhile this is actually a workbook which employs a lot of science and psychology, there would be no point in reading it if you don't practice mindfulness as it asks you to...
NReviewed in Germany on 5 February 20205.0 out of 5 stars a real gamechanger in psychology
Format: PaperbackVerified PurchaseThis is the last self help book you will ever need to read.
Steven Hayes is a real genius, he managed to revolutionize our understanding of therapy by changing the focus from contenct to concept of consciousness and emotion. Thus, this book is not another of the countless self help books telling you to think positive, eat healthy, and do stuff that makes you feel good, rather it targets our relationship to our thoughts and emotions in general, freeing us from a stranglehold of happiness.
I can only recommend to read it!









