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When browsing their web sites, I noticed that apart from those listed academic requirements by different universities, they all require at least two reference letters from applicants, but they did not officially state that who should write those recommendation letters.
Although I have collected several recommendation letters from my former teachers, I found it was quite hard to reach my former teachers whom I had not contacted for many years.
It almost took me two months from the day I sent out my first email to the day I got enough recommendation letters from my former teachers.
It has been puzzling me why the recommendation letters should be written by school lecturers or professors.
The people who know you best are business partners, your close friends, family members like your parents, siblings, why they are not qualified to write the recommendation letters for me?

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  • Because it's a test on how determined you are in getting admitted. Someone who just get a letter from his/her friends look lazy to me – gerrytan Jan 20 '15 at 02:36
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    The title of this question is a little misleading. Why shouldn't friends and family write a recommendation letter? In a word, bias. But why can't supervisors or co-workers or civic leaders write a letter? That's a more interesting question, I think. – J.R. Jan 20 '15 at 10:42
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    @JR that's a different question. If you want to ask about that, go ahead and ask in a new post. – ff524 Jan 20 '15 at 11:23

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  1. Because they cannot be objective.
  2. Because they do not have firsthand knowledge of your academic abilities.
  3. Because they do not have the background necessary to compare you to other graduate school applicants.

Also see Kisses of Death in the Graduate School Application Process, page 2, "Harmful letters of recommendation," subsection "Inappropriate sources," and Protocol for writing a recommendation letter for someone you only know on a personal basis.

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  • Because how many friends or family do you know that would write a totally honest letter (or refuse to write you one if it wouldn't be a good one)?
  • – Moriarty Jan 19 '15 at 14:24
  • Does those rules apply to all graduate programms, ff524? – kitty Jan 19 '15 at 14:36
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    @kitty Yes. Unless the application explicitly says they want a character reference, it is implied that they are looking for an academic reference. – ff524 Jan 19 '15 at 14:37
  • Thank you, ff524! I see one of the universities states that they accept professional recommendation and academic recommendation. What exactly is a professional recommendation? – kitty Jan 19 '15 at 14:40
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    @kitty A professional reference is one from somewhere you have worked. Generally a boss or supervisor. Ideally the job will have been connected to or involved in research, and the recommender will be an active researcher who has a relevant PhD. You should be careful with these, a recommendation is very different in the professional vs. academic realm. Make sure that any professional recommenders understand the academic culture. – Roger Fan Jan 19 '15 at 15:22